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Home, Until We Are Home.

What Is Home To You?

“When I think of home, I think of a place where there’s love overflowing”

Years ago I rendered a speech about HOME and that line from the song has been my intro. For years, the words of that song has always been how I believed what home is – a place where there’s love overflowing. After attending the launch of Homes We Carry: Voices From Life Beyond Borders, they carried a different weight

I thought I was attending a book launch. Instead, I found myself listening to the heartbeat of thousands of migrant workers.

The author is a Filipino domestic helper in Singapore. What inspired me most wasn’t simply that she fulfilled her lifelong dream of publishing her first book. It was that she refused to let her circumstances determine the size of her dreams. Even more remarkable, she didn’t keep that dream to herself.

She invited fellow migrant workers to become co-authors—to tell their own stories, write their own poems, and give voice to lives that are too often overlooked. That, perhaps, is what dreams are meant to become. Not ladders that help us climb higher than everyone else. But doors that allow others to enter.

A Song That Felt Like Home

The morning started with an inspirational song. Instead of singing a contemporary worship song, the guest artist chose Ugoy ng Duyan. She shared how it was the lullaby her mother sang to her as a child. Although it is a Kundiman, this morning, it felt almost like a prayer.

As the familiar melody filled the room, I looked around and saw many of our fellow Filipinos quietly wiping away tears. It was no longer just a song. It became every bedtime memory. Every mother’s embrace. Every childhood we wished we could visit again.

Even more touching was hearing one of the guest speakers, a Singaporean poet, novelist, and illustrator, say afterward that although he didn’t understand a word of Tagalog, he could still feel the warmth carried by the music.

The Homes We Carry

Throughout the event, different speakers shared thoughts that stayed with me.

One poet spoke about missing “the ring of your language” …  “the slow embrace of love and the love of small embraces.”

Another reminded us, “If you were born into this world, you were meant to be here.”

An Indonesian Embassy representative challenged us to “create homes through kindness.”

Those words beautifully echoed what this entire book is about.

The opening poem by the author describes learning to “dance to the rhythm of survival”, turning longing into strength and discovering that home is no longer merely a place left behind, but something carried in every sacrifice, every remittance, every whispered prayer before sleep.

Those lines capture the life of so many Migrant Workers. Home travels with them. Not in their luggage. But in their hearts.

“Uwi Ka Na, Mama”

Among all the poems, one quietly broke my heart. It was written by someone I have known in church for years. The title was Uwi Ka Na, Mama.

She left for overseas work when her daughter was only one year old. She has now spent more than twenty years working abroad. She recalled the day her little girl, only seven years old then, cried over and kept repeating, “Uwi ka na, Mama.” Come home, Mom.

She shared that even today those words still pierce her heart. Perhaps that is the hidden cost of migration.

People often see the remittances. They celebrate the opportunities. They admire the resilience. But behind every successful migrant worker is usually…

A birthday missed.

A graduation watched through a screen.

A child who learned to grow up while waiting.

A spouse who carried responsibilities alone.

Parents who grew old while hoping the next reunion wouldn’t be years away.

It is a sacrifice few people truly see.

Home Is More Than A Place …

For years I have believed that home is not simply a place. It is not a location marked on a map.Like the song says, home is where love overflows.

Home can be people.

Home can be memories.

Home can be experiences.

Home lives inside us.

A home is not built only with bricks and walls. It is built through friendships that become family.Communities that embrace us. Churches that pray for us. Employers who believe in us. Neighbors who show kindness. Simple moments that remind us: You belong here.

Perhaps that is why so many migrant workers eventually discover a “home away from home.”Singapore has become that for many of us. Not because it replaced the Philippines. But because we have found people here that chose kindness. People who welcomed us.

Worked alongside us.

Believed in us.

Prayed with us.

Loved us.

In doing so, they helped build another home.

… And Yet Home Is Also A Place

Yet if I am honest, there is another truth I cannot ignore.

Just last week I flew back to the Philippines. The moment the plane touched down, the cabin suddenly erupted in applause and cheers. Many of the passengers were Overseas Filipino Workers returning from the Middle East. Some had not gone home for maybe two years or perharps even longer. One voice shouted,

“Sa wakas… pagkatapos ng mga pagtitiis.”

Finally… after all the sacrifices.

At that moment I realized something. Yes, home is more than a place. But for those who have lived apart from their spouses … For mothers who have missed watching their children grow… For fathers who know their sons and daughters mostly through video calls… For children waiting for one more embrace… Home is also very much a place.

It is still the embrace of loved ones.

The dinner table where everyone is finally complete.

The familiar voices echoing through the house.

No matter how beautifully we describe home as something we carry inside us, my heart still aches for every migrant worker who longs to be home, in the arms of the people they love

Perhaps both things are true.

Home is what we carry.

And home is who we long for.

Until We Are Home

As the book launch came to an end, I realized this book is about far more than migrant workers.It is about every human heart searching for belonging.

Perhaps that is why Scripture repeatedly speaks of us as sojourners and pilgrims. We are all carrying a longing for home. Not just an earthly one. But an eternal one. Until then, may we become the kind of people who create homes through kindness.

Who welcome the stranger.

Who make room at the table.

Who help someone feel less alone.

Because sometimes the greatest gift we can offer another person is not a house.

It is the feeling that they belong.

“Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household.” – Ephesians 2:19

May we continue building homes, not only with walls, but with love.

Because in the end, the most beautiful homes are the ones we carry within us… until we finally arrive home.

Secured by Our Harness: Doing It Scared at Forest Adventure

Earlier today, I strapped in and climbed alongside our junior youth and some of their friends at Forest Adventure.

Three obstacle courses.
Ropes suspended mid-air.
Thin logs.
Shaky platforms.
And heights.

Lots of heights.

As someone who is afraid of heights, I knew from the first ladder climb that this would not just be a Sunday activity.

It would test me.

The Harness That Holds

There was one section with very thin logs hanging high above the ground. Every step made them sway. My legs trembled. My mind whispered, What if you fall?

And then I remembered … I am wearing a harness

Even if I miss a step, I will not crash to the ground.
The worst that could happen? I dangle. I wobble. I hang awkwardly … But I will not fall.

And isn’t that so much like life?

Fear often paralyzes us even when we are secured. We hesitate. We calculate. We imagine worst-case scenarios. Yet all along, we are already held.

God is like that harness.

The platforms may shake.
The winds may sway us.
Our balance may fail.

But we are secured. Fear makes us forget what grace already guarantees.

Doing It Scared

Courage is not the absence of fear.

Courage is trembling and stepping anyway.

Midway through one of the courses, I kept telling myself:

This too shall pass. Just take the next step.

One step.
Then another.
Then another.

And eventually, you reach a stable platform again.

I told the kids the same thing when I saw them freeze. “Let’s all do it scared.”

Sometimes finishing strong is not about speed.
It’s about refusing to quit mid-air.

Listening to One Voice

One of the ates struggled from the very first obstacle. Even after overcoming one section, she would face the next one with the same fear all over again.

There was a moment when she froze completely. The steps were shaking. She kept asking:

“Can I hold this?”
“Can I step there?”
“What if…?”

Too many questions.
Too many voices shouting encouragement from below.

I shouted from across while struggling myself in my shaking steps, “Listen to one voice. Just do it!”

She chose to listen only to the crew guiding her from the course.

And that was wisdom.

In life, there are many voices:
Fear.
Doubt.
Pressure.
Opinions.
Even well-meaning advice.

But maturity is knowing which voice leads you safely forward.

Later over dinner, she shared something beautiful. She said she saw her life in that obstacle course. Amidst all the voices, she realized she just needed to focus on one. And in her heart, she didn’t want to quit.

No matter how slow it took her, she finished.

Shaky.
Slow.
But faithful.

Responsibility Makes You Brave

Here’s another realization.

When you carry responsibility for others, you don’t have the luxury of quitting easily.

I kept thinking:
If I stop, what message does that send to the kids?
Will their parents feel confident entrusting them to us again?

Sometimes leadership forces courage out of you.

When responsibility makes us step forward…
When fear tells us to turn back…
When the path has no shortcut…

We move anyway.

Not because we are fearless.
But because someone is watching.
Because someone is learning.
Because someone needs to see that finishing is possible.

Love makes you stay.
Love makes you step.

No Shortcuts, Only Strength

The third course was the most difficult. Once you start, there is no turning back.

I went through it with one of our youths. She didn’t finish the 2nd course because she was already tired. The crew double-checked if she was sure about attempting the final one because she had mentioned she was tired.

But she said she wanted to try.

There was a particularly difficult section where she could have taken a shortcut by ziplining straight across. Her father even suggested it. Another youth echoed the same.

She didn’t.

She chose the harder path.

And she finished.

Tired.
But smiling.
Stronger.

In life, shortcuts may save time, but they don’t always build strength.

The shaky planks.
The exhausting stretches.
The slow progress.

They shape something in us that comfort never can.

Secured

Today, I realized something simple yet profound:

We are often more secured than we feel.

God does not promise that the platforms won’t shake.
He promises that we will not fall beyond His hold.

The Bible says:

“For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand;
it is I who say to you, ‘Fear not, I am the one who helps you.’”
— Isaiah 41:13

He holds our hands.

Even when our legs shake.
Even when the wind blows.
Even when the next step feels uncertain.

We wobble.
He secures.

We tremble.
He holds.

Fear shakes us.
Grace steadies us.

We do it scared.
He keeps us anchored.

God is our Harness.

Step anyway … Heaven is holding the rope.