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47 & Grateful : Life’s Short, But It’s Not Over

Today, I celebrate my 47th birthday … am I halfway through my marathon? I’ve always loved how my birthday falls on December as year winds down. It feels like the perfect time to pause, reflect on what’s passed, and dream about what’s ahead.

Recently, I chanced upon a book at Kinokuniya that made me stop and think: time is just -passing me by. Life is short. 2024 — GONE! just like that. Have you ever felt that way, like there’s so much you still want to do, yet so little time to do it?

Life may feel fleeting, but as I sit here, penning down some thoughts on another birthday, I’m reminded that it’s not just about the time that has passed, but about the time we still have ahead.  At 47, I feel like I’m halfway through life’s race. And while there’s a natural sense of urgency as time ticks on, I choose gratitude. Yes, another day may have passed, but another day is about to begin.

Turning 47 feels like a milestone, not because of the number itself, but because it marks a point in my life where I’ve started to shift my perspective. Instead of counting the years that have slipped through my fingers, I want to focus on the moments that lie before me—the dreams still waiting to be pursued, the impact I can still make, and the people I can still inspire.

Yes, life is short, but it’s also abundant with possibility. And the best part? Every new day brings a fresh chance to live it fully.

I’ve come to realize that chasing success for its own sake doesn’t carry the same weight it once did. What matters more to me now is creating something lasting—not just in terms of achievements, but in the lives of others. What lives on long after we’re gone, after all, is the true measure of a life well-lived.

Two weeks ago, me together with a group of friends reflected on what our “headline” for 2025 would be, what we want to manifest and make happen in our lives. For me, the headline is clear: “From Holding Back to Marching On”.

Year after year, I’ve felt the pull to pursue something beyond my work in IT. While I deeply value the technical aspects of my career, what I love most is the opportunity it gives me to mentor, to build up, and to empower others. It’s a passion that ignites something in me every time I see someone grow and succeed because of the support I’ve been able to provide.

This year, I want to embrace that calling more fully. In whatever way I can, I want to be a channel of inspiration – a bow that launches arrows, a force that propels others to fly higher than they imagined. It’s time to stop holding back and start marching boldly toward the impact I know I’m meant to make.

As I welcome another year of my life and a new year for all, let us remember that Life is Short but It’s NOT OVER. Let’s live LIFE as we should .,,

L – Live Intentionally:  Life is short as I repeatedly ponder. Don’t just exist; choose how you want to spend your time and energy. What truly matters to you? What legacy do you want to leave?

I – Ignite Your Passion & Inspire Others: What sets your soul on fire? What makes you come alive? Pursue those passions with unwavering dedication. Inspire others by sharing your passion and encouraging their own pursuits.

F – Focus on the Present: Make the most of every moment by being fully present. Avoid dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Embrace the now and make each second count.

E – Embrace the Journey: Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Celebrate the victories, learn from the inevitable setbacks, and savor every moment along the way.

What’s your “headline” for 2025? What powerful story will you write in 2025? What courageous step will you take today to bring that headline to life?

Ready … Set … Go!

Think Less, Just Start : Overcoming The Hurdles of Taking the First Step

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

Taking the first step is often the most daunting challenge. Just like a crawling baby, every parent eagerly anticipates that pivotal moment when their child finally stands and takes those uncertain first steps. It’s a mix of apprehension, fearing they might stumble, and exhilaration, as they witness their child embarking on a journey of growth.

For what feels like ages, I’ve been toying around the idea of diving into coaching, training, or professional speaking. Empowering people to reach their fullest potential isn’t just a dream; it’s what drives me daily. It’s a passion I would pursue relentlessly, even if money were no object. I can picture myself at 100, still cheering people on, because to me, there’s no greater reward than helping people thrive and grow.

As passionate as I am about this dream, my fears are equally intense. The daunting question of where and how to begin has often left me paralyzed by self-doubt. Overwhelmed by fear, I’ve hesitated between wanting to start and worrying about my qualifications or skills. What if I’m not cut out for this? What if no one listens? Worst of all, what if I have nothing meaningful to say? These uncertainties have held me back, preventing me from taking that crucial first step forward.

I realized that these WHAT IF’s are my dream-killers.

SELF DOUBT – “What if I’m not cut out for this?”
The moment I decide to take that leap, impostor syndrome kicks in. The path ahead seems unclear, leaving me unsure of where to start or how to proceed. It’s easy to question my abilities, resources, and whether my goals are even achievable. These doubts can lead to hesitation and inaction, amplifying the impostor syndrome we often feel.

PERFECTIONISM – “What if I have nothing meaningful to say?”
I’ve always struggled with the need to have everything perfectly planned or executed from the start. This fear of not being perfect often leads to overthinking. The more I try to iron out every detail and anticipate every step, the more it prevents me from taking action. The more I worry about potential mistakes, the less likely I am to make a move at all.

FEAR OF FAILURE – “What if no one listens?”
Ultimately, my need for perfection and my self-doubt stem from my deepest fear—the fear of failure. Many people hesitate to start because they fear they might fail. The thought of not succeeding or making mistakes can be both intimidating and discouraging. Instead of facing potential disappointment, it’s often easier to avoid trying altogether. But by not trying, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to grow and succeed. The real failure is in never taking that first step.

Just as we use Google Maps to find our way to a destination, it’s crucial to set our starting point and re-center when we get lost. Similarly, recognizing these obstacles—self-doubt, perfectionism, and fear of failure—is the first step toward overcoming them. While they may seem overwhelming, I’ve realized that to move past these barriers, I need to shift my mindset and take intentional actions. By doing so, I can transform these dream-killers into stepping stones: Ready, Set, Go!

Ready – Overcoming Self-Doubt:
Get prepared by building confidence and self-belief.  To combat my self-doubt, I need to take the time to prepare myself mentally and emotionally. One way to do this is by acknowledging my strengths and reminding myself of past successes. It’s also important for me to seek out knowledge and skills that can bolster my confidence. By being ready, I reduce uncertainty and build a strong foundation to begin my journey.

Set – Tackling Perfectionism:
Set realistic goals and take manageable steps. Perfectionism can be paralyzing for me, so it’s crucial that I set realistic expectations and break tasks into smaller, achievable steps. I should focus on progress rather than perfection. It’s also important to remember the value of embracing my imperfections and allowing myself to make mistakes and learn from them. Recognize that starting doesn’t require perfection. Accept that initial efforts may not be flawless, but they are crucial steps toward improvement and learning. By setting clear, attainable goals, I create a pathway to action and reduce the pressure to be flawless from the start.

Go – Conquering Fear of Failure:
Take action and embrace the learning process. Fear of failure often holds me back, but I know the only way to overcome it is to TAKE ACTION. It’s crucial to accept that mistakes and setbacks are part of the journey. From here on, I should be prepared to embrace the learning process and view each step as a valuable experience. As I push myself to start, another important step is to seek support and feedback. Surrounding myself with a supportive network or mentorship lessens the fear. Sharing my aspirations and progress with others can offer encouragement, guidance, and constructive feedback, helping to build my confidence and momentum.

By going forward despite my fears, I build resilience and open myself up to the possibility of success.

As I reflect on overcoming self-doubt, perfectionism, and the fear of failure, I am reminded of the words from Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This verse assures me that with God’s strength, I can face any challenge, take the first step, and continue each stride moving forward, transforming obstacles into opportunities. By embracing readiness, setting achievable goals, and boldly stepping forward despite my fears, I am empowered to pursue my dreams with confidence. With faith as my foundation, I trust in God’s guidance and provision, knowing that He is with me every step of the way. As I journey onward, filled with hope and determination, I am ready to embrace the path ahead with courage and faith.